In a perfect world my son wouldn’t have been injured during birth. He would have 2 symmetrical perfectly functioning arms and hands. But we all have to figure out what to do with what we’ve got–and let’s face it, everyone has issues. It’s amazing the accommodations he comes up with to do 2 handed tasks with one hand. He amazes me. Since he’s had to deal with this since birth, finding ways to do things comes natural to him. It would be harder to lose the ability to use a hand later in life. Still sometimes he needs a little extra help. So I was shocked to find out that The Boy has been dropping his lunch tray in the cafeteria every week at school for the last year and 1/2. No-one-told-us-this-was-happening! Of course his teachers are claiming that there was no stigma attached to being the child who always drops his tray. Seriously? We took home a tray and practiced different techniques. Within a few days the problem was resolved. What really upsets me about this is that the problem went on for so long. How was it acceptable to just assume that because of his difference he can’t carry his tray and so you just keep letting the child embarrass himself for-a-year-and-a-half. Parenting a child with a sever brachial plexus injury has been challenging. He’s had 3 surgeries and as he gets older figuring out night time splinting and range of motion exercises get’s harder. But this is the first time in almost 8 years that I feel like because of his hand he was made to feel different. I’m so incredibly disappointed.
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