The Girl found out this weekend that she wasn’t invited to 3 parties and a play date was canceled. For a 10 year old this is a lot of disappointment. It would even upset this 38 year old if it happened to me. Middle School starts next year and I can’t imagine it will be any kinder to The Girl. Getting your feeling hurt happens–maybe not so much at once, but it happens. It is so hard to watch a child’s self confidence waver and then plummet. Why Mommy? Why don’t people like me! Yea..heart breaking. After the let down about the play date The Girl enjoyed a splendid day in town with Dearest Hubby who boldly stepped in to the rescue. She came back refreshed and ready for her next disappointment which followed shortly after. But I thought she was my friend? What’s wrong with me? Yea…it crushes me to hear this as a parent. How am I supposed to respond? I reminded her that we all get left out sometimes and that parents have to limit the number of guest invited to parties just like we did at her birthday. I assured her that there was nothing wrong with her–that she is smart and compassionate and that she will be a better friend to kids when their feelings are hurt because she knows what it’s like. (I had to throw in a little Buddhist lesson.) And I made her tea. We sipped it slowly and talked about all the fun activities we have planned as a family. Tea is calming and rejuvenating and a wonderful thing to share between mother and daughter. Then I put her to sleep by rubbing her feet and went directly to the Gohonzon. I prayed that these little (big) hurts heal quickly and that in each one she learn how to be a better friend. All I can do is be there for her every time there is pain; boost her self confidence as much and as long as a mother can; and pray for her. What else can I do? Do you have any advise to share?